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Friday, October 17, 2014

Unexpected Tragedy Takes a Life

It's hard to begin this post knowing ones heart is filled with so much sadness for so many...



Yesterday morning at 5 am a single car crash took place that robbed someone of their life in just a moments time.


This is my son and his family last year before the birth of their daughter Camilla who is now 6 months old. The beautiful girl is my daughter in law, Shawna, a very warm, caring, and giving person. Sadly her mother was taken from her yesterday without any warning, a mother with a lot of life ahead of her is gone.

I sit here typing and can not wrap my mind around the tragedy, nor can I stop my heart from feeling a pain that is not welcome, as it happen so suddenly there is no time to adjust the heart and make sense in the mind.

In just an instant a life is over, a family mourns, and tears flow like a damn has burst open with no control. No one can seem to make any conclusions, talk is here and there random and sporadically between the tears that stop and start all over again. Questions, so many questions, how, why, was she in pain, was she frightened, what was she thinking as she headed towards the tree? So many unanswered questions, so many what did I say the last time I saw her, why didn't I say this, how do you think she remembered me, her daughter ask, was she proud of me, why didn't I make more attempts to get along better. Then she will blurt out I hope she passed out before it happened, do you think she suffered as the tears begin again. 

I spent most of the day with my daughter in law, letting her just do. It was so hard to watch her cry, then stop to continue life with her children, and yet knowing as I watched nothing she was doing had any thought just motion. The stops and starts of her walking, the stops all filled with tears she tried bless her heart to function despite the sudden loss of her mom and soon to be grandmother dying of cancer. To have to tell a mother she had just lost her daughter, I can't imagine the enormous pain after the words are uttered. After all a parent should not have to bury a child at any age, and her mother soon to follow.

It's easier from my own personal experience to have your parents or for that anyone die slowly. No it's not easy to watch and the pain is there in the heart, yet, we have time which is important. Time to say things unsaid, time to prepare your heart, time to adjust the thoughts settle it all, time to spent just sitting. I lost both parents that way and I am so very grateful for the time, unlike my daughter in law who had nothing uttered, but, your mother just died in a car accident on the way to work.

My love for my daughter in law is just as my own daughter. To see the pain and not be able to take it away is awful. I merely let her be, let her talk when she mindlessly blurted out the loss or random everyday questions, letting the tears flow and waiting for her next movement, it was all I could do. I knew in my heart I had to be there right away after my son sent me a text. I had to hold her, I had to just be where she could see me and I her. I had to control my tears, talk casually, respond only when ask a question. I knew she needed that I knew she was emotionally unpredictable and a simple response to her constant why's was all I could do. I am grateful to have been able to have supported her even in such a small and silent way. 

I sat last night stunned, asking myself similar questions, trying to imagine how her mother may of felt at that moment of impact. Thankfully she passed instantly, but not without leaving behind many broken hearts that will never truly know many of the answers.

Please take the time to fasten your seat belt...the blow alone when the air bag ejects is like hitting concrete. Without fasten that belt, a neck will snap and a chest will be crushed. Although she was not wearing one, we are not sure if the complications of her heart may have caused it all. For now we just process the thought that she is in a better place, pain free, all her problems gone and that she is resting in peace.

God Bless everyone today and don't forget every single chance you get to leave someone with a smile, kind words, and love.


Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Blanket Progress

It's a bit of a dreary week so far and perfect for knitting, getting cozy, and turning on the fireplace. Some in the home seem to think the window is the place to be...


Bella has been with me since she was two days old and is now 4, totally hates to be photographed. She turns her head away from me so to capture this photo, I had to make a noise, didn't fool this girl in her fav spot in front of the living room window. Noisy little bugger...she also hates it when I knit she looks at me as if to say...not again! Then I look at her and say...I agree is it done yet!


As I've mentioned many times, I am not one for color in my home, just can't seem to focus when it surrounds me. As I view others blogs with colorful homes I do so enjoy them, yet I know me, and that makes it all okay to be without color. That's what makes life so incredible, knowing yourself, and being completely happy in your own skin. And I am... even with my non colorful home it suits me well as does the blanket I started in August. I am learning something new even though its just a simple garter stitch. I am learning to Continental Stitch an love it! So much faster, easier on the hands, wrist, learning something new is what I love too, and controlling the urge to start a new project before one is done, another thing I am teaching myself.


As is photographing...I am learning everyday that it's something ironic in itself, it's a constant lesson and I enjoy it. I am going back in a few days to photograph the same spot as the leaves change more...color I leave to nature it's truly where I am at home with it. The colors of changing Seasons blend magnificently together naturally and that suits me just fine.